How much and how can I know about a guy before marrying him?
i dont want to be foolish and fall for a guy fast before wanting to marry him so how much and how should i know about the guy before deciding to marry him? i dont want my future to be ruined and i do like the idea of getting married and having a family and from now, almost 17, i want to know how to be really smart for the future and prepare for what might come ahead of me. I see and hear stories of some women’s lives with their husbands and life and it’s really sad, so i think to myself i dont want that ever happen to me. What do you think? I know I cant search the guy i fall in love with and he does too soo much but i need to know enough before marrying him but dont know how to do that without being rude and too nosy. I want to make good decisions.
If you think you’re being rude or too nosy… Consider this: It’s better to be safe than sorry. Guys who think you’re being rude or too nosy is being evasive…it’s best to leave that kind alone. Because their not wanting be openly honest…is certainly not worth your time. First of all, don’t tell the guy everything about yourself and especially not anything that would be considered a weakness for him to manipulate. As it can later be used as to take unfair advantage of you. Reveal as less as possible about yourself until you first know everything there is about him. Cause once you get married, the prince charming can suddenly morph into an ugly green monster…which is lightly put.
If you want to know whether someone is really with you or not… Have pictures of the both of you taken together; photos does tell it all. If his head is tilted away from you…it means he’s not really with you. If his eyes is looking away and not toward the camera or you…it means he’s hiding the truth of his insincerity. Paying attention to body language can reveal much.
Everyone has a True Soul Mate but most don’t end up with them. Your Dream or Idea person is somehow imbedded into your preferences of what you seek. Such a person is…very much like yourself. They say that True Love is like the best of friends…as they respect each others differences, understand each other well and compensate for each other.
Working together mutually like a team, than two rivals on separate thrones. Those who rush or allowed themselves to be rushed in marriage make the biggest mistake, as regretful disappointment will follow and a permanent rift, whether by divorce or death (from unhappiness).
Stay away from baggarts & loud mouth guys, as they are losers who are not as good as their word. Love is unconditional (with no expectations or ultimatums) and… Not possessive, where someone is out to control you. Stay clear from those who show outbursts of anger & tries to severe your contacts with others and blames you for things going wrong; physical & mental abuse is not a match made in Heaven. Do not pick someone cause of their great physical appearance, money or conviences… As such is superficial and doesn’t last. Love is not skin deep. Kissing can also help; if kissing on the lips seemed awkward or not quite what you expected…that’s not a green light. Love is not a one-sided thing; if you’re not getting anything out of it and he’s the only one who does…you’re being cheated. If the guy is too quiet and doesn’t talk about things that include you…that is a sure sign you’re not in his plans. Another thing to look out for is the kind of words that can tell you of what lies ahead; it can
come through either them (e.g. “You’ll be sorry you got with me…ha, hah”) and or from a member of their family (e.g. “Are you sure you got what you wanted?”) Usually, if family members doesn’t approve of the person you’re with…it simply means the relationship will not last; this is divine protection. Single parents who had failed relationships can’t be counted on your behalf; their hidden jealously will keep you from having someone. As misery likes company. When it comes to guys, always… Listen to what your head is saying, instead of your heart. For your heart can blind you so bad, that you can’t see a pitfall ahead.
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